Archana Puran Singh Recalls Miscarriage Trauma and Feeling 'Abandoned' by Husband Parmeet Sethi
In a deeply emotional and revealing conversation, television personality and actress Archana Puran Singh has opened up about one of the most painful chapters of her life - her miscarriage and the subsequent emotional challenges she faced during her pregnancy journey with husband Parmeet Sethi.
The Painful Miscarriage Experience
During the third episode of their series Pyaar Dosti Hai, which explores their marriage and shared journey over the years, Archana Puran Singh revisited the traumatic experience of her miscarriage. She revealed that during the first four years of their marriage, she had conceived but was unable to carry the pregnancy to term.
"I had conceived, but I couldn't sustain the pregnancy. I was working on a film at the time, and I had a miscarriage," she shared, describing it as a deeply traumatic experience. "I really wanted to have children, and losing the pregnancy affected me deeply."
The miscarriage occurred while Archana was shooting director Sachin Pilgaonkar's film, Aisi Bhi Kya Jaldi Hai. She admitted the experience left her fearful and uncertain about her future, saying "I was 34. I genuinely thought I was too old and that I might never be able to have children."
Differing Perspectives on Parenthood
Parmeet Sethi recalled how witnessing Archana's pain altered his outlook on having children. "Seeing what you went through made me feel that we didn't really need children. I was very happy with just us," he said during their conversation.
Archana remembered Parmeet telling her that their relationship was complete in itself. "We are so close and there is no space between us for another person," she recalled him saying. However, she disagreed with this perspective, explaining "I told you that a child wouldn't be an outsider, it would be our own," adding that Parmeet may have been too young at the time to fully understand her longing for motherhood.
Emotional Abandonment During Pregnancy
Archana's first successful pregnancy came during an emotionally overwhelming period. She was in Bangkok for a show when she received news of her father's death. She immediately returned to India, only to learn that his last rites had already been performed. In the days that followed, while grieving, she noticed unexpected food cravings and realized she was pregnant.
Looking back at this challenging time, Parmeet admitted he failed to offer Archana the support she needed during her pregnancy. "I didn't support you at all. I was completely clueless. There was a time you needed complete bed rest, and I said I'm going to play football," he confessed.
Archana remembered feeling emotionally abandoned during this critical period. "Here I was, sick, trying to protect my pregnancy after a miscarriage, and he's going to play football," she said, describing the emotional distance she felt from her husband.
Reflection and Understanding
Parmeet acknowledged his lack of awareness during that time, explaining "When you're young, you're very self-absorbed. You're driven by your own dreams and ambitions. I didn't realise what I was doing." He called himself "foolish" in retrospect and emphasized "I would never intentionally hurt you. I just didn't know better."
The experience has deeply influenced how Archana now views relationships and support systems. "As a mother, I don't want my daughters-in-law to go through what I did. I want my sons to understand that for those nine months, they need to forget themselves and be there for their wives," she shared. "At that time, I felt abandoned. Only later did I understand it came from a lack of awareness."
A Healing Perspective
In a touching revelation, Parmeet shared that he believes their son Aaryaman is the reincarnation of Archana's late father. "He feels like his reincarnation, same humour, same nature," he said, offering a perspective of healing and continuity that has emerged from their challenging journey.
The candid conversation between Archana Puran Singh and Parmeet Sethi provides a rare glimpse into the emotional complexities of pregnancy loss, the challenges of parenthood aspirations, and the growth that can emerge from difficult experiences in a marriage.
