Whoopi Goldberg Embraces Solo Life, Says She's 'Not Cut Out' for Relationships
Acclaimed Hollywood actress and media personality Whoopi Goldberg has made a candid declaration about her personal life, stating unequivocally that she is "not cut out to be in a relationship." The Oscar-winning star has been intentionally single for nearly three decades following her divorce from actor Lyle Trachtenberg in 1995.
A Deliberate Choice for Independence
In a revealing interview with Interview magazine, Goldberg explained her long-standing preference for living alone. "In the last 25 years, I have seen that not everybody's cut out to be in a relationship," she stated. "Some people are just cut out to be one-night stands. I don't want to live with anybody."
The 70-year-old actress emphasized that her current living arrangement with her daughter represents the extent of her domestic comfort zone. "That's all I can handle. I have lots of people that I love, but I don't need them living with me. I don't need to be sleeping with them," Goldberg added with characteristic bluntness.
Marriage History and Personal Philosophy
Goldberg's relationship history includes three marriages: first to Alvin Martin from 1973 to 1979 (with whom she shares daughter Alex Martin, now 51), then to David Claessen from 1986 to 1988, and finally to Lyle Trachtenberg from 1994 to 1995. She admitted that contemplating a partner's needs doesn't align with her temperament.
"I'm not good at relationships because you have to think about other people, and I have enough to think about with my daughter and her husband and my grandkids and my great-grandkids and all the people at work," Goldberg explained.
Challenging Societal Expectations
The EGOT winner challenged conventional wisdom about companionship and solitude. "I don't necessarily get lonely because there's enough people around who don't let me," she noted. "But most people are not comfortable being alone because we've been taught that there's something wrong with you if you're not a pair, that being singular, eating singular, is a bad thing."
Goldberg offered a vivid example of her preference for independence: "Sometimes you don't want to eat with other people. Sometimes you just want to go and have some pasta. You don't want to say, 'Do you want red wine or white wine?' I don't give a f*** what you want."
Financial Independence as a Factor
This isn't the first time Goldberg has discussed her relationship preferences. She has previously acknowledged that financial considerations play a role in her decision to remain single, specifically mentioning her reluctance to "share money" with a partner.
The actress's comments highlight a growing conversation about alternative living arrangements and relationship structures, particularly among women who have achieved financial independence and personal fulfillment outside traditional partnerships.
Goldberg's perspective offers a counter-narrative to societal pressure for coupledom, presenting solo living as a valid and satisfying choice rather than a deficiency. Her remarks resonate with many who find contentment in independence rather than conventional relationship models.
