Love's Eternal Flame: Alzheimer's Patient Proposes Again After 39 Years
Imagine gazing into your soulmate's eyes after nearly four decades of marriage, only to hear the whispered words, "Will you marry me?" once more. For 78-year-old Linda Feldman, this poignant moment became reality in November 2025, as chronicled by The Washington Post. Her husband, 77-year-old Michael O'Reilley, battles Alzheimer's disease, and some days he forgets she is his wife. Yet one profound truth remains unwavering: in his heart, he knows he loves her deeply.
"He just knows he loves me. That's a constant," Linda revealed. In an era often characterized by transient connections, their bond stands as a testament that genuine affection can withstand even life's cruelest challenges.
Their Timeless Love Story
Michael and Linda's journey began in 1979 when they first encountered each other at Alameda County's public defender's office. Recalling their initial meeting, Linda shared, "I was told 'Watch Michael argue. He's brilliant.'" She followed the advice, and an immediate spark ignited. He soon became her mentor and confidant—their lunches evolving into profound, soul-baring conversations, despite both being married to other partners at the time.
Years later, after their respective divorces, Michael asked Linda out. Hesitant due to her young son and still-healing heart, Linda wavered. But Michael proved persistently charming. Aware of her fascination with forensic pathology, he cleverly emailed the office: "Anyone for an autopsy?" Only Linda and one colleague responded. The colleague fled the morgue looking pale, while Michael and Linda laughed off the experience over lunch—which serendipitously became their first official date.
They began dating and blended their families—his two daughters and her son. Opposites attracted: Linda described herself as the "neurotic little Jewish girl" who adored theater and museums, while Michael was the adventurous Irish Catholic who sought excitement in river rapids and thrills. They enriched each other's lives by introducing one another to their distinct worlds and passions.
A Simple Yet Profound Union
In 1987, after years together, their children expressed confusion about how to explain their parents' relationship. In response, Linda and Michael chose to marry in their living room, with a friend's house hosting the reception. The ceremony lacked grandiosity but overflowed with sincere commitment. Over subsequent decades, they traveled globally, nurtured their family, and welcomed six grandchildren. Their life together brimmed with curiosity, deep discussions, and unshakeable companionship. "We could talk about anything," Linda reminisced, her eyes misting with emotion.
Navigating Alzheimer's Diagnosis
Seven years ago, Michael's Alzheimer's diagnosis delivered a devastating blow. His family had a history of this formidable disease—his brother and aunt were also affected. Once capable of mesmerizing courtrooms with four-hour arguments relying solely on memory, Michael now struggled with tangled words and repetitive paths. Linda cared for him at home, her heart breaking as his once-vibrant social spirit faded into isolation. "He's always been affectionate," she noted. "Holding me, kissing me, whispering 'I love you.' Even now."
Two and a half years ago, Linda faced the heart-wrenching decision to move Michael to a memory care facility. Since July, at The Ivy at Berkeley, Michael smiles whenever she visits and draws her close. Linda acknowledges their fortune—many with Alzheimer's experience rage or complete memory loss. Their enduring love sustains her, serving as a vital lifeline through the grief.
A Surprise Proposal Renewed
November 2025 bestowed an unexpected gift. Michael pulled Linda near and asked, "Will you marry me?"—unaware he had posed the same question 39 years earlier. Without hesitation, Linda responded, "Yes," once again.
Staff members overheard the exchange, their hearts swelling with emotion. "Every visit, he falls for her anew," remarked executive director Angeles Sticka. They orchestrated a dream wedding: an intimate gathering on January 10 with 25 attendees including family, friends, and caregivers. The celebration featured blooming florals, dancing balloons, a nostalgic slideshow, and a towering cake adorned with their likenesses. Their original wedding album gleamed prominently. Daughter Sharon Frost officiated—Michael, who had previously officiated her wedding, now received her blessings. "He's my hero," Sharon expressed, her voice choked with emotion.
Reflecting on the day, Linda marveled, "He was happy through it all." Local media captured their love story, which resonates as a contemporary fairy tale of resilience and devotion.
