Renowned filmmaker and choreographer Farah Khan has recently shared intimate details about her challenging journey through IVF treatments and how her husband Shirish Kunder stood by her through every difficult moment. The emotional revelation came during a candid conversation with tennis star Sania Mirza on her YouTube podcast.
The Unwavering Support During IVF Treatments
Farah Khan, now 60, recalled the extensive process of undergoing in vitro fertilization treatments that eventually led to the birth of her triplets - Czar, Anya, and Diva. "He was wonderful. I used to go to the hospital every other day," Farah expressed about her husband's consistent presence throughout the medical procedures.
The filmmaker highlighted the significant commitment required, mentioning the one and a half hour drive to the hospital that Shirish never missed. What made his support particularly remarkable was his involvement in the most vulnerable aspects of her journey. "He has literally washed me and bathed me and cleaned me up... all sorts of things that a husband maybe should not see," Farah revealed, emphasizing the depth of his dedication.
Facing IVF Failures Together
The path to parenthood wasn't smooth for the couple, as Farah disclosed that she experienced two failed IVF attempts before successfully conceiving at age 42. During these challenging times, Shirish's emotional support proved invaluable.
"I used to be crying and crying because of the hormones, too, which were pumped in," Farah remembered, acknowledging the emotional turmoil exacerbated by hormonal treatments. "I used to cry at the drop of a hat." Remarkably, she was simultaneously directing the blockbuster film Om Shanti Om during this emotionally draining period.
Shirish's reassuring words during their lowest moments became a source of strength for Farah. "He said, 'It's fine even if we don't have children. What will happen? We are happy now, so we will continue that,'" she recalled, noting how this perspective helped alleviate the pressure she felt.
The Beautiful Outcome and Shirish's Bond with Their Children
Despite the eight-year age difference between them, with Shirish being younger, Farah emphasized how strongly her husband desired children. "I knew how badly he wanted kids," she shared, making his supportive stance during the failed attempts even more meaningful.
The successful IVF treatment resulted in the birth of their triplets, and Farah described the beautiful relationship that has developed between Shirish and their children. "The children were and are his best friends... he spends the maximum time with them," she reflected, painting a heartwarming picture of their family dynamics.
Expert Perspective on Emotional Support in Relationships
Psychotherapist and life coach Delnna Rrajesh, commenting on Farah's story, highlighted the significance of such unwavering support in relationships. "Real relationships are not built on grand gestures or glamorous posts; they are built in hospital corridors, in moments of vulnerability," Rrajesh noted.
She described this level of commitment as "emotional maturity at its highest frequency" and emphasized that the strongest relationships emerge when traditional roles dissolve and the focus shifts entirely to supporting the human being in front of you.
Rrajesh also pointed out that many people secretly long for this type of unconditional support - "to be cared for without being judged, to be supported without being shamed, to be held through the ugliest, most unguarded phases of life."
The therapist observed that modern relationships often suffer when partners fear showing vulnerability, leading them to "perform strength rather than sharing truth," which ultimately destroys genuine intimacy.
Farah Khan's heartfelt account serves as a powerful reminder of the transformative power of emotional support during life's most challenging chapters, particularly in the context of fertility treatments and pregnancy journeys.
