Bollywood power couple Kajol and Ajay Devgn have long been celebrated for their enduring marriage in an industry where relationships often face intense scrutiny. In a revealing 2014 interview that continues to resonate today, Kajol shared profound insights about marriage, infidelity, and the essential priorities that keep relationships strong.
Kajol's Perspective on Marriage and Infidelity
During her appearance on Koffee with Karan, Kajol expressed her belief that infidelity problems stem from both partners in a marriage. "Somewhere down the line, you have not opened your eyes and looked at a problem in yourself and the marriage," she stated candidly. The actress emphasized that she and Ajay have their moments where they "agree to disagree" but described their relationship status as "so far, so good."
Kajol didn't hesitate to praise her husband, calling Ajay Devgn "a good man" and "a solid man" while highlighting their shared commitment to making their marriage work. What truly makes their relationship successful, according to Kajol, is that both partners work at it every day.
The Secret to Their Successful Marriage
The cornerstone of their lasting relationship lies in their aligned values and priorities. "We both believe in the same basic things," Kajol explained. "Our personality types may be different, but the fact of the matter is that we both believe in family... we both believe that loyalty is to each other, and we both believe that we are in this for the long run."
Kajol used the powerful Hindi proverb "taali dono haathon se bajti hai" (you can only clap with both hands) to illustrate that marriage requires equal effort from both partners. She also emphasized the importance of maintaining strong family connections, noting that she makes a point of keeping in touch with all family members and that everyone shows up for important occasions.
Expert Analysis: Early Warning Signs of Relationship Trouble
Psychotherapist Delnna Rrajesh supports Kajol's perspective, explaining that infidelity often serves as a symptom of deeper issues rather than the root problem itself. According to Delnna, emotional ruptures begin long before someone crosses a physical or emotional boundary.
"I see infidelity not as the root issue but as a symptom of a deeper emotional disconnect," Delnna stated. "The betrayal is real, and the responsibility for the act lies with the person who cheated. But the relationship itself often shows signs of strain much earlier."
The expert identified several subtle warning signs that couples often dismiss until significant damage occurs:
Emotional loneliness within the relationship despite physical proximity
Unaddressed resentment that accumulates over time
Communication fatigue where conversations become transactional rather than emotional
Feeling taken for granted and losing the emotional companionship
Delnna noted that many couples transition into being "efficient co-managers of a household" while forgetting to maintain their emotional connection. This gradual weakening of the emotional ecosystem makes relationships vulnerable to rupture.
Building Resilient Relationships
According to the psychotherapist, relationships thrive when both partners share the same internal compass regarding core values like loyalty, honesty, mutual respect, and emotional safety. When even one person stops prioritizing these ideals, distance grows quietly but steadily.
Delnna was careful to clarify that while both partners might contribute to the environment where infidelity occurs, accountability for cheating remains clear with the person who committed the act. However, understanding why it happened requires examining the emotional patterns that developed between both people.
The healing process, like the maintenance of a healthy marriage, requires conscious participation from both individuals. Delnna suggests couples ask themselves difficult questions to repair and strengthen their bond:
Where did we stop listening to each other?
Where did our friendship fade?
Where did intimacy become uncomfortable?
Where did resentment go unspoken?
Where did emotional honesty become inconvenient?
These questions represent relational truths that every couple can benefit from reflecting upon, whether infidelity has touched their relationship or not. Kajol and Ajay Devgn's approach to marriage—prioritizing family, maintaining loyalty, and both partners working consistently on their relationship—offers a real-world example of these principles in action.
