Paras Kalnawat, who gained fame for his role as Samar in the popular television show Anupamaa, recently opened up about a traumatic romantic relationship that left him emotionally scarred. In a candid conversation on The Motor Mouth podcast, he revealed that his ex-girlfriend cheated on him, causing him to develop deep-seated trust issues that he is still working to overcome. The actor described the experience as a difficult two-year phase that ultimately brought him closer to spirituality.
A Heartbreaking Betrayal
Paras disclosed that his last relationship ended about a year and seven months ago without any explanation. He said, “She cheated on me and left without giving me any closure. One day everything was fine, and the next day she was gone. When I asked for a reason, all I got was that she had fallen out of love.” The suddenness of the breakup left him devastated, and he chose not to pursue her for answers. Instead, he stepped back from work and social media for almost a year to process the pain.
Deep Emotional Attachment
The actor admitted that this relationship was particularly hard because of his deep emotional investment. “She wasn’t just my girlfriend; I was deeply attached to her and saw a future with her,” he explained. To cope, he began spending long hours in temples, reading the Bhagavad Gita, and seeking solace in spirituality. He also traveled extensively outside India, which he felt helped him heal, though he now recognizes it was a form of distraction.
Trust Issues and Avoidance
Paras confessed that the betrayal has made him wary of new relationships. “I have stopped entertaining girls because I have trust issues. If a conversation becomes regular and I see the other person caring about me, I just ghost her. I know I shouldn’t, but I maintain distance. I’ve left it to God now,” he said. He added that he rarely shares his feelings with others but finds peace in talking to God, especially at ISKCON temples, where he feels a pure energy that encourages honesty.
Red Flags Ignored
Reflecting on the relationship, Paras recalled early warning signs. His ex-girlfriend, a singer, kept their relationship hidden from her friends and claimed to be single. “That was the first red flag, but I didn’t understand it at the time. I thought she just wanted to focus on her career,” he said. She also accused him of spying when he showed concern. Eventually, he discovered that while he was struggling with the breakup, she was involved with multiple men, many of whom were known to him.
Emotional Trigger
The actor revealed that seeing those men triggered him emotionally. One of them, who had advised him to move on, was later found to be involved with his ex. When confronted, the man admitted it and apologized. Paras chose to forgive him. “He told me I could slap him if I wanted, but I forgave him and moved ahead,” he said. Despite this, Paras acknowledges that he is still in the process of healing and has not fully recovered from the trauma.
