In a candid and emotional revelation, Sunita Ahuja, wife of veteran Bollywood actor Govinda, has publicly addressed the swirling rumours of her husband's alleged extramarital affair, stating that 2025 has been "a very bad year" for her. The interview, given to ETimes, sheds light on her personal turmoil and the nature of the alleged relationship.
Sunita Ahuja's Candid Take on the Controversy
Speaking directly about the persistent rumours, Sunita Ahuja clarified key details while expressing her distress. She emphasised that the woman linked to Govinda is not from the film industry, asserting her belief that "actresses don't do such bad things." More pointedly, she questioned the intent behind the relationship, alleging a financial motive.
"She doesn't love him; she only wants his money," Sunita stated. She also made a broader comment on marital fidelity, insisting that "no one has a right to keep the fourth woman in their life." Expressing her hopes for her husband's realisation, she highlighted that the most important people in his life should be his mother, his wife (herself), and their daughter.
Expert Insight: Does Intent Lessen the Betrayal?
The situation raises a complex question: when an affair is reportedly driven by opportunism rather than deep emotion, does the betrayal hurt less? Sonal Khangarot, a licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist at The Answer Room, provided professional insight to indianexpress.com.
Khangarot explained that while an affair is a betrayal regardless of intent, the psychological motivation behind it influences its impact on the marriage and the subsequent repair process. Affairs driven by money or opportunism are typically transactional, often rooted in entitlement, power dynamics, or thrill-seeking, rather than emotional dissatisfaction with one's spouse.
"While the betrayed spouse may initially feel 'less replaced,' the damage lies in the erosion of trust, values, and respect," Khangarot noted. Such incidents raise serious concerns about a partner's character, judgment, and future reliability, inflicting a distinct form of pain.
The Deeper Cut of Emotional Affairs
In contrast, the expert highlighted that affairs stemming from emotional attachment can be more destabilising. These usually emerge from feelings of neglect, loneliness, or unmet emotional needs within the primary relationship. The betrayal in such cases feels profound because it breaks emotional exclusivity, triggering intense fears of abandonment and replacement.
Psychologically, both types result in betrayal trauma, anxiety, and hypervigilance. Khangarot stressed a crucial point: "The intent does not lessen the injury." Recovery, she asserts, hinges entirely on the offending partner's accountability, emotional attunement, and a sustained, genuine effort to rebuild the shattered trust.
The Foundational Role of Boundaries in Marriage
Khangarot concluded by underscoring the paramount importance of clearly defined emotional and relational boundaries in long-term partnerships. These boundaries create the psychological safety, clarity, and predictability that allow love to flourish securely.
When these boundaries are violated, it triggers attachment insecurity and hypervigilance, making partners feel unsafe and potentially replaceable. Over time, this erosion weakens emotional intimacy and can destabilise the relationship's core, even if it appears functional on the surface. The case highlighted by Sunita Ahuja's statements serves as a public reminder of these private, painful dynamics.
