For more than two decades, Dr. Sunita Sunil Karande’s life was measured by eye charts, prescriptions, and surgeries. As an ophthalmologist in Solapur, Maharashtra, her professional identity was ironclad. But between 2022 and 2023, her life could be measured by lunchboxes, mock-test schedules, and the hum of a rented apartment in Rajasthan’s Kota.
A Mother's Sacrifice
In 2021, when her son went to Kota to prepare for the National Eligibility cum Entrance Test (NEET), Karande made a choice: she paused her medical practice, left her husband to manage their family hospital, left her daughter in a hostel, and relocated. She is not alone. Thousands of parents across India uproot their lives to accompany their children to Kota, the coaching hub for competitive exams like NEET and JEE. These parents, often mothers, put careers and personal aspirations on hold to provide emotional and logistical support.
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Life in Kota for these parents revolves around their children’s schedules. Mornings start early with preparing lunchboxes and ensuring study materials are ready. Evenings are spent discussing mock-test performance and managing stress. Many parents report feeling isolated, far from their home towns and social circles. Yet, they consider this a temporary sacrifice for a brighter future.
Impact on Families
The decision to move strains family dynamics. Spouses often live apart, and other children may be left in hostels or with relatives. Dr. Karande’s daughter, for instance, had to adapt to hostel life. Financial pressures also mount, as families bear the cost of Kota’s high living expenses alongside coaching fees. Despite these challenges, parents like Karande remain resolute, believing the sacrifice is worth the potential reward of their child’s success.
Broader Implications
This phenomenon highlights the intense pressure on Indian students and their families to crack competitive exams. It also raises questions about the education system that drives such extreme measures. While coaching hubs like Kota promise success, they come at a personal cost for both students and parents. As one parent noted, “We put our lives on hold, but we do it out of love.”
